Finally I found a little time to start writing my birth story!!!! The first week with our baby girl has been pretty intense as you can imagine and we have decided to spend as much quality time together as possible, that is why I haven't been posting on the blog.
But let`s start with the birth story right away, it might be a little long but I am sure many of you who are pregnant would love to read it!
Sunday 18th March at 4.45 am I woke up to go to the bathroom and I realized I was having some light menstrual cramps, I had never felt this pain during the pregnancy but I was not sure that I was in labor, I initially thought it was a false alarm and that I was experiencing some pregnancy related pain. The cramps started being more frequent and I also start getting some lower back pain together with them, that is when I realized labor might had started! I was beyond excited and I just wanted the contractions to become stronger and more frequent. So I stay in the bathroom for an hour timing the contractions with an app, they are coming pretty frequently but they are not regular at all.
Meanwhile Robert wakes up and realized I have been at the toilet for quite a while so he comes asking if I am okay, I tell him that I don`t feel so good but it is nothing dangerous, to just go back to sleep ( I wanted him to get as much sleep as possible because I knew it was going to be a looong day)
Around 6 am I call the hospital to tell them that I am having contractions, they ask me how frequent they are and tell me to try to stay home until they are about every 5 minutes. So I wake up Robert and tell him that we are going to have a baby, at first he doesn't believe me, he doesn't think I am in so much pain but he gets up and makes some breakfast, meanwhile I had a shower, did my make up and even painted my nails!
At 7 am we eat some eggs and avocado toast and I start to have to stop doing whatever I am doing every time a contraction comes, I warm up a rice pillow and place it on my lower back, there is where the pain is mainly located but it does not help so much. We decide to try to rest a little so Robert goes back to bed and I decide to be on the sofa with the rice pillow but at some point I really need him to press it hard against my back when a contraction is coming so I go back to bed with him but i soon realize that the pain is even stronger for me when I lay down, it is easier to handle when I stand leaning against something.
At 9 am we call a taxi and we decide to go to the hospital, I think the pain is too strong to stay home any longer! So we check all our bags, pack some snacks and at 10 am we get into the taxi towards the hospital that fortunately its only 10 minutes away. During the ride in the car I get 2 strong contractions and it is really uncomfortable to have to sit still and quite!
At 10.15 we are at the hospital and they check right away if I am dilated and luckily I am 4 cm so they admit us ! YAYYY but before getting a room they want me to walk for an hour in the corridors to help the contractions speed up, at that point I was 4 cm but the contractions where still not very regular. The pain is getting stronger and stronger so every time I get a contraction I need to lean against something or go on all 4 on the floor, that is the only position that helps me cope with the pain.
At 11.30 they check me again and I am 5 cm dilated so we can go to the delivery room! Once in the room we meet the first midwife, she is young but really competent and nice with me, she brings me a birthing ball and so I manage to bounce on it through some contractions.
Around 14 o clock they check me again and I am now 6 cm, the pain is getting too strong and I ask for an epidural that I get about 30 minutes later, I have to say that the epidural helped me a lot, even though the pain for me was only located in the back and epidural helps mainly for pain in the front of your belly but I definitely recommend you to do it so that you can at least get some rest if you are having a long labor like mine! The only down side is that you might loose your ability to go and empty your bladder so they have to empty it for you with a catheter but it is painless!
Once the epidural kicks in we manage to sleep a little, get some lunch and walk around in the hospital for a while, until i start feeling the contractions getting stronger again.
Around 19 pm they check me again and now I am 7 cm so they decide to break my water to help the contractions getting stronger. I was a little worried about the water breaking part but i didn't feel anything , not even the water coming out! Within half an hour from breaking the water my contractions are definitely building up again and we also meet the new midwife, also a really nice and young girl. Soon after that I start throwing up because the pain is very strong, every time I lay down in bed I have to throw up, so I end up filling up 5 plastic bags and I can assure you that when you are in so much pain the last thing you need is feeling nauseous. The midwife thinks i am loosing too much fluids so they give me an IV to keep me hydrated, unfortunately she cannot place the IV in my hands and ends up sticking me 4 times before she decides to call another doctor to do it.
From this moment on wards my memories are a little vague and I don`t remember exactly the time of when things happened but I know that at 9 pm I am 9 cm dilated and at 10 pm I am finally 10 cm! But what some of you might not know is that once you are 10 cm dilated you don`t necessarily start pushing right away but you have to wait for the baby's head to go further down in the birth canal. For me these were the most painful hours, you feel an extreme urge to push but you cannot, you have to wait and hold it in! Also I was so exhausted that after every contraction I fell asleep and woke up to the next one.
I really wanted to push and kept asking the midwife when I could do that but she told me to wait and wait I ended up waiting for 2 hours before i could finally start pushing.
So I start pushing in bed on all four and then I lay on my back with Robert holding my right leg and a midwife holding my left leg every time I need to push. At every contraction I push as hard as I can and finally after an hour of pushing at 01.35 am our little girl was born, 3435 kg and 49 cm long. I cannot describe the feelings you experience when you finally meet your little miracle but I can assure you that all the pain is completely gone as soon as the baby is out and that I could do it many more times because it is totally worth it!
Robert cut the cord and then we are left alone with our girl for an hour in the room, that hour feels like 5 minutes i swear! Before I knew it the midwife was back in the room, she attached Victoria to my breast and then she brought us some snacks. After a while they tell me to go and have a shower and try to pee and luckily everything goes well, I felt immediately recovered, only 3 external stitches and I couldn`t even feel them. It is so amazing what our bodies can do!